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"I wish I could go back," said Anna. "I guess I thought it would always be there, and I could go back and learn more when I was older. But now I'm older and it's gone."

"All the great art scenes are like that," said Mariah. "Renoir's career was half over before the term Impressionism caught on. And Fitzgerald and Hemingway had given up on the Left Bank long before the place was overrun by talentless hacks who wanted to imitate the Lost Generation lifestyle. And the Beats had mostly left San Francisco before busloads of visitors started to do tours of the Haight-Ashbury. When Johnny Rotten couldn't work with the Sex Pistols anymore, he left and the London punk scene began to die. Later on, he said he regretted his decision to leave. Everyone thinks they can go away and come back later, but they never can. When Joan Didion and her husband left New York, she quipped that some other couples were staying too late at the party, but that gets it all backward. The party ends whether you want it to or not, and it takes an unusual arrogance to celebrate the end of an era that some people will remember as the best years of their life. Hemingway lived in Paris during his twenties, but he didn't write about his experience in Paris until he was in his sixties. No one ever knows they're part of an art movement; it's something you only see afterward."

"But if we only see it in retrospect, then how can we find the next great art scene?" asked Anna. "What do I look for?"

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Business leadership

One on One meetings are underrated, whereas group meetings waste time (2017) Christian McCarrick interviewed me about this essay, check out the podcast here: Why Group Meetings Can Be Time Wasters with Lawrence Krubner (2018)

Discretion still matters -- don't ruin your career by sharing too much (2017)

Why are women being pushed away from the tech industry? (2018) on a possibly related note, see the discussion of the gendered usage of the accusation "You're too emotional." (2011)

When companies make a fetish of being data driven they reward a passive aggressive style (2018)

Why are large companies so difficult to rescue (regarding bad technology)? (2019)

Kelly O'Donnel: flat, non-hierarchical organizations do not work (2019)

The right way to do Agile (2019)

The worst project manager ever (2019)

High Availability is not consistent with a MVP, because an MVP should be about fast iteration (2019)

Caroline Calloway as the unreliable business partner (2019)

Code theory

PHP is obsolete (2014) updated in 2019

Object Oriented Programming is an expensive disaster which must end -- the Wikipedia page devoted to Object Oriented programming lists me as one of the critics and links to this essay. (2014)

The lack of software leadership is the driving force of verbose ceremonies and placating rituals (2016)

The Agile process of software development is often perverted by politics (2016)

How ignorant am I and how do I formally specify that in my code? (2016)

Immutability changes everything (2016)

Mutable iterators are the work of the Devil (2016)

The Functional paradigm is not about static type checking (2016)

Why I prefer dynamic-typing over static-typing: the speed of adapting to change (2017)

How should your company handle data safety and version control? (2018)

Why are software developers confused by Kafka and immutable logs? (2019)

How does your frontend know the id of a document if you're using an async architecture? Rely on UUIDs. (2019)

Caches are cheap, so build a lot of them for the frontend (2019)

Docker helps most with tech debt, so don't be proud of using Docker, as it implies you have tech debt (2019)


How I recovered from Lyme Disease: I fasted for two weeks, no food, just water (2019)


Poland was shockingly liberal in the 1400s (2018)

Art theory

An interview with Martha Mendenhall, theater director

An interview with Kelly O'Donnel, theater director

Book review: Evening, by Susan Minot

Book review: Pretty Much Screwed, by Jenna McCarthy

Book review: I Take You, by Eliza Kennedy

Femslash and the growing power of fandom

Um, err, uh, I guess this isn’t a terrible review?

Do you get Coldplay? Like, really get Coldplay?

If you want to go dancing in New York City, consider Silvana

Social theory

How many people murder their spouse and get away with it?

Dating advice: Your life will be enriched in countless ways if you host parties

The Trump administration is racist

Your shame will destroy the planet

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